what it does for you
Forgiveness is a powerful force. It enables communication, heals wounds
and resurrects relationships, among other things.
But it's terribly misunderstood.
Some equate forgiveness with weakness. They think that not forgiving shows
strength of character, pride, and conviction. Not only will they not forgive, but
they will also constantly remind themselves never to let it happen again. The transgression against them becomes
their guiding light.
Some think that forgiveness is for
holy people - or for those who have not been hurt too much. They think in terms of degrees. The less you hurt, the
easier it is to forgive. The greater the pain, the longer you're entitled to hold on to resentment.
Some reject forgiveness altogether, because they think that forgiving means
that you have to pretend that whatever happened never did.
Still others say that they forgive, and remind you of it every chance they get.
Their kind of forgiveness has a price, which can never be fully paid.
Forgiveness seems to be a big sacrifice.
However, the truth is that forgiveness mainly benefits the one who forgives.
By not forgiving, the negative emotions that you feel turn into poison in your
body, and cause all kinds of ailments,
even fatal ones. Remember that whatever you feel affects you,
not somebody else.
However, by forgiving, you expel the poison from your system, like a
good spring cleaning. Once the poison is gone, the healing can begin.
When you look at it this way, you see that by forgiving, you do yourself a favor.
Forgiveness is necessary for your own good, because the same energy that you would otherwise use hurting yourself,
can actually be used to heal yourself, and, if you wish, others as well.
Forgiveness is a metamorphosis from victim to healer.
The process is both emotional and logical. It's not necessarily easy, but it is
The first step is to face your pain, however hard that may be. Then, you
look at the logical reasons why you have to let it go - in other words - forgive.
The logical reasons are easy to identify. As soon as you face your pain, you feel
different things. Maybe your heart beats faster...or you have trouble breathing...or you shake. Do you know how
damaging that is to your system?
Now, consider this: all these things
will stop when you forgive.
The added bonus is that forgiveness not
only cleanses you, it also makes space for wisdom.
More on forgiveness coming soon...
Wishing Only Well,